Experience is a different kind of teacher, giving you first the test, and then the lesson.
Life is a bit different. Usually we think that we will study to learn how to do something, and then do it. We learn to prepare. In life we do it first, and then prepare to learn. Parenthood is a good example. Commonly, no one teaches young couples how to parent. It is pretty much learn as you go. Maybe that is because experienced parents simply cannot communicate that wisdom. It is too complex. Perhaps experienced parents know that every family is so unique that there is not pattern to follow. So, young parents have to learn as they go.
I think all of life is too complicated for an instruction manual. There are general principles of wisdom that can be followed, but to apply these is the trick. No one encounters life without struggle and doubt. Marriage, parenthood, all of life is a come as you are party. One must plow into it and learn as we go. It strikes me that we would never accept a job this way. For a job, we would want a description; we want to know what is expected. Real life does not work that way. We get no blue print.
So, in life we are often unprepared. We must plunge ahead and trust in God that He will give us everything we need to encounter life well. We must depend, because we are only children and He is Father. Life is a different teacher. First comes the examination, then comes the learning part. You can say what you with about it. Life is rarely boring.
Fr. James O’Leary