Creating your own monument
The above project involves two questions.
No. 1 – What would you like to be remembered for?
No. 2 – Who would you want to be your museum curator?
Very probing questions! Let’s look at no. 1.
If you were going to be remembered for one thing, what would it be? What one thing in your life really expresses the real you? What would you stand with? All of us have a horrible memory that we hope the whole world will forget. At least I do. But it is easy to laugh at our foibles. What are we most proud of in our past life? How would we like to be remembered two generations from now?
It would not have to be a great thing. Few of us have aspirations to go down in the history books. The little things may best show who we are. I know a woman who, I think, would say her greatest moment came in taking care of her dying mother. I know another who would say that rising above the hurt of her husband’s adultery and going on loving was her finest hour. No one really knew what the cost was to both of these women during their shining moments.
Which leads to question No. 2. Who do you want to remember? Our first moment may be an anonymous moment. What if our time of heroic virtue comes and no one notices? This would be intolerable for me. I realize that God knows, but I have to have someone else. Just one person! Who would that person be for you? Who do you want to take care of the lasting treasure that is you?
I invite you to think about these two questions. The answers will tell you who you are; the answers will tell you what you are about.
Fr. James O'Leary